Finding your people: Every Person Is Not Your Person

Sharron Keogh   August 21, 2023   min read

In a world brimming with diverse perspectives and personalities, it's only natural that not everyone we meet will resonate with us on a deep, personal level.  Last week, I had the opportunity to attend an event featuring a highly successful entrepreneur I had never crossed paths with before.  As they shared their experiences and insights, I found myself nodding in agreement at some points while raising an eyebrow at others.  This encounter led me to contemplate the concept that not every individual is meant to be our ally in every aspect of life, and that's not just acceptable – it's essential.

Finding Common Ground Amidst Differences

At the event, I found myself in a whirlwind of thoughts as I listened to the entrepreneur's share their knowledge throughout the day.  There were aspects that resonated with me deeply – lessons learned from failures, strategies for scaling a business, and the importance of perseverance.  These were the moments when I felt an instant connection, recognising that there was value in their insights.

However, there were also moments when I felt a sense of disconnect.  Some of the principles they advocated seemed at odds with their own actions, leaving me questioning their integrity and strategy to doing business.  This internal tug-of-war raised an interesting point: just because someone achieves success doesn't necessarily mean they embody all the values and qualities we seek in a mentor, partner or friend.

Navigating the Grey Areas

Life is rarely black and white, and our interactions with others are no exception.  The entrepreneur's mixed bag of insights and contradictions underscored the reality that people are intricate and multifaceted beings.  While we might be drawn to certain aspects of a person's character, we shouldn't be discouraged when we discover differences or inconsistencies.

In our quest for connection and personal growth, it's crucial to remember that finding the perfect mentor, partner or friend is not about finding someone who aligns with us completely.  Instead, it's about identifying individuals whose values, experiences and aspirations intersect with ours in meaningful ways.  Just as a puzzle is composed of various pieces that fit together uniquely, so too are the relationships and connections we form throughout our lives.

Embracing Diversity in Relationships

The realisation that not every person is meant to be "our person" is liberating.  Whilst we may have heard and known that before, living it is entirely different.  In fact it's a testament to the diversity that enriches our lives and the myriad of opportunities it presents us with.  Just as we evolve and change over time, so too do our needs and aspirations.  What might resonate with us at one point in our lives may not necessarily be the same in the future.

Imagine a world where every mentor, friend or partner was an exact replica of ourselves.  The exchange of ideas, perspectives and growth would stagnate, leading to a limited scope of experiences.  Embracing the fact that others have their own unique paths, beliefs and ways of navigating the world opens the door to a richer tapestry of relationships and insights.

Your Person, Your Journey

As we reflect on the concept that not every person we encounter is meant to be our lifelong confidant or collaborator, it's important to approach relationships with an open heart and a willingness to learn.  Our journey in finding "our people" is not a linear one.  It's a dynamic process of discovery, one that involves trial and error, patience and the courage to let go when a connection isn't as authentic as we'd hoped.

Just as the entrepreneur I met may be a guiding light for someone else, there are individuals who will deeply resonate with us and provide the support, wisdom and friendship we seek.  These connections are forged through shared values, mutual respect and a genuine alignment of goals.

Embracing the Diversity of Connections

In a world where individuality and uniqueness reign supreme, it's only natural that our connections with others will be as diverse as we are.  The encounter with the successful entrepreneur served as a reminder that life is a tapestry woven from threads of contrasting experiences and perspectives.  It's a testament to the beauty of human complexity and the opportunities it presents for growth and enrichment.

So, if you haven't yet found your perfect partner in life, your ultimate friendship circle, or the business allies that resonate with your vision, remember that they are out there.  Embrace the journey of discovering those whose paths intersect with yours in meaningful ways, and don't be disheartened when certain connections prove to be less harmonious.  Every person you encounter contributes to your growth and understanding, even if they're not "your person."  After all, diversity in relationships is what makes life truly vibrant and enriching.

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Sharron Keogh
About The Author

My name is Sharron, and I'm on a mission to share the tools and strategies I have learnt over the past 9 years that make the real differences keeping your word and transforming your health.

I've worked with thousands of women just like you, and shown them the way to honour themselves and live a life they love. And believe me - YOU are worthy of this too!

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