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Reclaim Your Power: A Guide to Letting Go

Sharron Keogh   May 1, 2023   min read

Have you ever felt like you're not in control of your life? Like you're constantly being pulled in different directions by other people's expectations and demands? Maybe you feel like you're not living up to your own standards or that you're not good enough to achieve your goals.

If any of these resonate with you, then it's time to take a step back and evaluate how you're giving your power away to others. Whether it's through self-sabotaging beliefs or behaviours, the fact is that you're not living your best life if you're not in control of your own decisions.

I've worked with many clients who struggle with letting go of their self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours. In this article, I'll share some insights and practical strategies to help you reclaim your power and start living the life you deserve.


Identifying Self-Sabotaging Beliefs and Behaviours

The first step in reclaiming your power is to identify the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours that are holding you back. These can be hard to pinpoint on your own, as they often stem from deep-rooted beliefs and past experiences.


Some common self-sabotaging beliefs include:

  • I'm not good enough
  • I don't deserve happiness
  • I'm not smart/talented/creative enough
  • I'm too old/young/fat/thin to achieve my goals
  • Other people's opinions matter more than my own


These beliefs can manifest in various self-sabotaging behaviours, such as:

  • Procrastination
  • Self-criticism
  • Avoiding challenges
  • Perfectionism
  • People-pleasing


To identify your self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours, take some time to reflect on your thoughts and actions. Pay attention to the negative self-talk and patterns of behaviour that are holding you back. Once you've identified your self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours, it's time to start letting go of them.

If you are struggling to identify your self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours, then this is where working with a coach, mentor, guide, health professional or talking with a person who you know well and trust can be beneficial. Being asked or asking questions of others can help shed light on areas you are seeking answers to.


Letting Go of Self-Sabotaging Beliefs and Behaviours

Letting go of self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours is easier said than done. After all, these beliefs and behaviours have likely been a part of your life for a long time, and they may feel comfortable or familiar to you.

However, holding onto these beliefs and behaviours will only continue to hold you back. It's time to let go and start living your best life. Here are some strategies to help you let go of self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours:

  1. Practice Self-Compassion
    Self-compassion is the act of treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance. When you practice self-compassion, you're able to recognise that you're not perfect and that it's okay to make mistakes. To practice self-compassion, try talking to yourself like you would talk to a friend. Be gentle, encouraging, and remind yourself that you're doing the best you can.

  1. Challenge Your Negative Self-Talk
    Negative self-talk is a common symptom of self-sabotaging beliefs. When you hear that voice in your head telling you that you're not good enough or that you'll never achieve your goals, it's time to challenge it. One effective way to challenge negative self-talk is to ask yourself if there is any evidence to support it. For example, if you're telling yourself that you're not smart enough to get a promotion at work, ask yourself if there is any objective evidence to support that belief. Chances are, there isn't.

  2. Take Action
    Taking action is one of the most powerful ways to let go of self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours. When you take action, you're proving to yourself that you're capable of achieving your goals, no matter how small the steps may be.

    Start by setting small, achievable goals that align with your values and priorities. As you start achieving these goals, you'll build confidence and momentum, which will help you overcome your self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours.

  3. Practice Mindfulness
    Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and fully engaged in your experiences. When you're mindful, you're able to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment, which can help you recognise self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours as they arise. Try incorporating mindfulness into your daily routine by taking a few minutes each day to focus on your breath or engage in a mindful activity, such as yoga or meditation.


Reclaiming Your Power

Letting go of self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours is an ongoing process, and it's not always easy. However, it's essential if you want to reclaim your power and start living the life you deserve.

As you start letting go of self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours, you'll begin to feel more confident and in control of your life. You'll be able to make decisions that align with your values and priorities, rather than being pulled in different directions by other people's expectations.

Remember, reclaiming your power is a journey, and it's okay to ask for help along the way. Whether it's through working with a coach, mentor, guide, health professional or seeking support from friends and family. Don't be afraid to reach out for help when you need it.


Conclusion

As a coach and holistic practitioner, I've seen firsthand how self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviours can hold us back from living our best lives. However, I've also seen how powerful it can be to let go of these beliefs and behaviours to reclaim our power.

Remember, reclaiming your power is an ongoing process, but it's one that's worth the effort so that you can start living a more fulfilling life. 

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Sharron Keogh
About The Author

My name is Sharron, and I'm on a mission to share the tools and strategies I have learnt over the past 9 years that make the real differences keeping your word and transforming your health.

I've worked with thousands of women just like you, and shown them the way to honour themselves and live a life they love. And believe me - YOU are worthy of this too!

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